Defining Success: The Journey To Happiness
“My teacher asked me what I want to be when I grow up, I said happy. She told me I don’t understand the assignment, I told her she doesn’t understand life.”
How do you define success? Success is based on our own perception and how we see ourselves relevant to the world around us. Success is measured by comparison of our friends, family and colleagues. We even compare ourselves to people we have never met, or via magazine covers filled with airbrushed pictures. Success can and will always be defined differently for each person, as it is a subjective perception based on past experience, nurture, nature, and future goals. Success is not the final ending, but is rather the accomplishments along the journey that have personal meaning. Success does not come to a halt once we have achieved a goal. Once a goal is accomplished, new goals must be set; therefore one can define success as an ongoing process.
Many people believe success comes with luck, or in a passive state of behavior. Many people blindly wait for it, blame others when it doesn’t happen, and create reasons for not achieving their own personal success. Although other people can help or inhibit success, the power to succeed or fail is in each and every one of us as individuals. We all have control over our own success and failures. We are given choices on a daily basis, and it is what we choose to do, how we act or don’t act, that will provide us with the small and unexpected treasures along the way.
Here are tips for achieving success:
1. Work hard and accept failures: Success does not come wrapped in a beautiful box with a red ribbon. You must work for it, and work hard. If you want to achieve success you need to push through barriers, apply yourself, and get up every time you fall. You need to keep going no matter how many times you are told no. For all of those no’s, there will eventually be a yes.
2. Know yourself and believe: In order to be successful, you need to know what your strengths are and how to improve upon them. Write down a list of the things you like to do, and what you feel you are good at doing. Do not focus on improving a weakness, as it is a waste of precious time. You must also believe in your heart and in your head that you will be successful. Map out a road to success, expect bumps along the way and never stop believing.
3. Define what success means to you personally: Success is not measured the same by everyone, as it is an individual accomplishment. What might look or feel successful to you may be the complete opposite to another person. Two people do not have to strive for the same type of success. Measure your accomplishments according to your own plan and goals, not everyone else around you.
4. Someone can give you tools, but you must use them: If someone gives you the tools for success, use them! Many people land in very lucky situations that they have created for themselves. If you are given a chance or set up in a successful situation, take those tools and run with them. Use those tools to teach others, be grateful, give back, and you will find even more success.
5. Understand you make success rather than find it: Success is not found, but rather, it is made. If you want to be successful you need to work hard, dedicate yourself and strive to create success. Nobody is going to give you a bottle filled with success. You must take action; calculate risks and step outside of your comfort zone. Create your success by knowing who you are, how you contribute to the world and how to give back. Once you find success, share your tools with others to help them define their own success and find their dreams.